on Sunday, October 10, 2004
Da Lu mei. Xiao Long Nu. Wu ya (Crows)... these are the stigmas associated with the Chinese Nationality women in Singapore. These women have been labelled as adulteresses, husband snatchers, vicious, backwards etc.
Maybe it is all these schemas that make us-Singaporean Chinese women- hate being thought as a Chinese national. I read that many local women have been mistaken as one of the "Da Lu Meis" and i have my own fair share of "wrongings".
I was carrying out some transactions at an atm next to the taxi stand. Then i got into one of the taxis and the driver looked shocked when i told him the direction i was heading. He told i was from China until i spoke to him. Then he said maybe its my hair or whatever. I was disturbed. How dare he thought i was from China, i fumed. First thought: Get a new hairstyle! LOL
But when i think about it now, its really silly. I am chinese and of course i will get mistaken. Trust me, i still cannot differentiate Americans and Canadians. *DUH* I wasnt so concerned about the appearance compared to the stigmas attached. Then again, we are all on the same level playing fields because there will also be people out there who would feel disgusted if they are mistakenly identified as Singaporeans. WE all have our pet peeves and in my perfect world, understanding and patience would be the key to resolve alot of problems but sadly.. that is not the situation in real life.
SO...................
Look on the bright side and concentrate on the good things. If our elders, in my instance -my great grand mother, did not have the courage and strength to search for a new beginning and cross the treacherous seas, we wont be here today. That is something we can all learn from them.
P/S I am always proud to see a Chinatown in almost every part of the world. Chinese around the world unites! Thats something that a Singaporean or Chinese should be proud of.
Carina
11:09:00 PM
